Hi, I’m Abby
Your embodied boundaries practitioner,
mentor and coach
I am also a nice girl in recovery.
I lived most of my life to please others instead of taking care of myself.
And I see this pattern everywhere. Too many folks have learned to put their own needs at the bottom of the list and prioritize other people’s wants and feelings above their own. This in turn leads to self-abandonment, and then resentment, unhealthy relationships and burnout.
If this sounds familiar, know that I have been there.
Learning powerful and healthy BOUNDARIES was my way out.
In 2019 I entered extreme burnout.
I was physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually overspent and incapacitated. I encountered a sea of stress that overtook my body and did not allow me to continue. I found myself lost after years of focusing outwardly for information, validation and direction.
In my recovery and dis-ability, I was forced to start from ground zero. I had to go deep and ask myself, “how the heck did I get here?” All of the external noise of what others wanted, what culture dictated I should do, or what to do if I wanted to be accepted and liked were much louder than my own inner voice. So, I quieted all of the external noise and slowly connected to my internal world, desires, and authentic truth.
My mantra became,
“my only commitment is to deep honesty”.
Saying YES to myself was hard at first but I began to see that I was practicing self-esteem in action. This made saying NO much easier, and I learned to do it with compassion and ease.
I saw that being a people pleaser had to start with pleasing MYSELF first, by seeking validation from within. With this, I began to take real responsibility for my own happiness, I stopped blaming others, and I began saying YES from an authentic place and NO with reverence and respect. My locus of power shifted. I stopped giving it away and took it back for myself. Now, I am in the drivers seat of my own life.
It was a powerful but arduous journey. It was painful yet rewarding.
I have taken all of my personal learnings and wisdom, alongside my formal educational training, and created a customized 6-month program to guide you to take your power back through badass boundaries.
I work with people-pleasers, empaths and high-achievers.
Folks who avoid conflict, struggle to say no and over-function, over-commit and over-give.
When we work together, I create an open and spacious environment where we explore your own individual relationship to boundaries. We will inquire about a lifetime of habitual patterns, limiting beliefs and fears that have kept you stuck in resentment, guilt, distressing relationships, and unnecessary emotional turmoil.
I use a body-based/somatic approach, mindfulness, and IFS inspired parts work to help my clients create safe and lasting change. I offer practices and tools that support you to stop self-abandoning, learn how to say yes to yourself, and practice saying no to what no longer serves you.
My background
Certified Coach | Avalon Institute
Certification in Somatic Parts Work | Embody Lab
Leadership & Group Coaching | The Connection Institute (TCI)
UnLeashed Coaching Program | Christine Hassler
17 years of meditation and mindfulness practice | Nyingma lineage of Chagdud Gonpa Foundation
Facilitator & teacher of Badass Boundaries | TCI
Boundaries training with renowned therapist Terry Real
Authentic Relating & Circling Facilitator | TCI
Shadow Work, UnTriggered Method, Grief Work and more
